Show up and be you!

Show up and be you!

You cannot go wrong by showing up in life and being authentically you.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves…
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking, so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson

In the past, I’ve had the tendency to supress the best parts of me, because I fear the radiance of my spirit will be intimidating, but the greatest gift I can give the world is my own happiness.

When I allow my light to shine with authenticity, the people and opportunities designed for my soul’s evolution will pursue me. The darkened shadows of my fears are illuminated and my resistance to love, joy, and acceptance begins to fall away.

If the folks currently in my life attempt to distinguish my light, because it makes them uncomfortable existing in this new space with me, maybe those aren’t my people. My people are out there looking for me. It is my goal to shift my focus from being a people-pleaser to being a people-lover, in order to clear the space for them to find me.

…and I consciously give you permission to do the same!

Would you date yourself?

Would you date yourself?

We all have standards we expect a potential partner to meet and subjective measures of the qualities we look for in a mate, based on our personal preferences and beliefs.

Perhaps a general checklist of age, height, fitness level, attractiveness, education, professional success, financial health, talent, pedigree, social status, geography, etc. to more substantial qualities like skilled communicator, respectful, respected, loyal, honest, responsible, ambitious, has children, wants children, parenting style, spiritual beliefs, etc.

Have you ever measured yourself against those standards? Are you the person you want your potential partner to be? Would you date yourself?

If we’re honest with ourselves and the answer is no, then the chances of us measuring up to that person’s standards and desired qualities aren’t great.

If the goal is to attract that ideal partner into our lives, we should first do the work to be the person we’d like to date.

The end result will be a much healthier and happier us, accomplishing two things: 1. we will be much more content and complete on our own and won’t be as desperate to be partnered; and 2. we will be much more likely to attract our ideal mate into our life, because we will be the person they want to date.

So, I ask again, would you date yourself? It’s certainly a question I’ve been asking myself lately and I’m not afraid to admit that the answer isn’t always a resounding yes. I’ve got some work to do.

Please feel free to share your thoughts and experience with me in the comments or by email at gypsydeeva@outlook.com

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